GODOGOOD INTERNATIONAL EDUCATION TOOLS AND TIPS = TRICKS AND TREATMENT
TO TAKE THE TRUTH TROUGH TRUE TIME TURNING !
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Focus on FUN; FRIENDS + FAMILY
& FACTS + FIGURES , Fantasy and Forever ?
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Must-know tips
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Helpful communication steps
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choose the best … confirm the rest
· Choices and changes planning for
each step
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Attitude
Attention Affection Appreciation
to
make your love in life happy !
be yourself and be gentle ! don’t imitate or manipulate; be natural !
Beautiful
Reception
After
returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you:
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Begin with a good greeting.
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Start with Assalamau 'Aliaykum and a smile.
Salam is a sunnah and a du'aa for her as well.
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Shake her hand and leave bad news for later!
Sweet Speech and
Enchanting Invitations
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Choose words that are positive and avoid
negative ones.
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Give her your attention when you speak or she
speaks.
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Speak with clarity and repeat words if
necessary until she understands.
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Call her with the nice names that she likes,
e.g. my sweet-heart, honey, saaliha, etc.
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Friendliness and
Recreation
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Spend time talking together.
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Spread to her good news.
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Remember your good memories together.
Games and
Distractions
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Joking around & having a sense of humor.
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Playing and competing with each other in
sports or whatever.
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Taking her to watch permissible (halal) types
of entertainment.
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Avoiding prohibited (haram) things in your
choices of entertainment.
Assistance in
the Household
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Doing what you as an individual can/like to do
that helps out, especially if she is sick or tired.
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The most important thing is making it obvious
that he appreciates her hard work.
Consultation
(Shurah)
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Specifically in family matters.
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Giving her the feeling that her opinion is
important to you.
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Studying her opinion carefully.
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Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it
is better.
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Thanking her for helping him with her
opinions.
Visiting Others
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Choosing well raised people to build relations
with. There is a great reward in visiting relatives and pious people. (Not in
wasting time while visiting!)
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Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during
visits.
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Not forcing her to visit whom she does not
feel comfortable with.
Conduct During
Travel
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Offer a warm farewell and good advice.
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Ask her to pray for him.
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Ask pious relatives and friends to take care
of the family in your absence.
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Give her enough money for what she might need.
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Try to stay in touch with her whether by
phone, e-mail, letters, etc..
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Return as soon as possible.
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Bring her a gift!
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Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at
night.
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Take her with you if possible.
Financial
Support
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The husband needs to be generous within his financial
capabilities. He should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful).
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He gets rewards for all what he spends on her
sustenance even for a small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand
(hadeeth).
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He is strongly encouraged to give to her before
she asks him.
Smelling Good
and Physical Beautification
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Following the Sunnah in removing hair from the
groin and underarms.
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Always being clean and neat.
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Put on perfume for her.
Intercourse
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It is obligatory to do it habitually if you
have no excuse (sickness, etc.)
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Start with "Bismillah" and the
authentic du'a.
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Enter into her in the proper place only (not
the anus).
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Begin with foreplay including words of love.
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Continue until you have satisfied her desire.
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Relax and joke around afterwards.
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Avoid intercourse during the monthly period
because it haram
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Do what you can to avoid damaging her level of
Hiyaa (shyness and modesty) such as taking your clothes together instead of
asking her to do it first while you looking on.
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Avoid positions during intercourse that may
harm her such as putting pressure on her chest and blocking her breath,
especially if you are heavy.
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Choose suitable times for intercourse and be
considerate as sometimes she maybe sick or exhausted.
Guarding Privacy
Avoid disclosing
private information such as bedroom secrets, her personal problems and other
private matters.
Aiding in the
Obedience to Allah
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Wake her up in the last third of the night to
pray "Qiyam-ul-Layl" (extra prayer done at night with long sujood and
ruku'ua).
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Teach her what you know of the Qur'an and its
tafseer.
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Teach her "Dhikr" (ways to remember
Allah by the example of the prophet) in the morning and evening.
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Encourage her to spend money for the sake of
Allah such as in a charity sale.
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Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford
to do so.
Showing Respect
for her Family and Friends
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Take her to visit her family and relatives,
especially her parents.
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Invite them to visit her and welcome them.
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Give them presents on special occasions.
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Help them when needed with money, effort,
etc..
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Keep good relations with her family after her
death if she dies first. Also in this case the husband is encouraged to follow
the Sunnah and keep giving what she used to give in her life to her friends and
family.
(Islamic)
Training & Admonition
This
includes:
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The basics of Islam / Christianity
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Her duties and rights
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Reading and writing
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Encouraging her to attend lessons and halaqahs
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Islamic rules (ahkam) related to women
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Buying Islamic books and tapes for the home
library
Admirable
Jealousy
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Ensure she is wearing proper Hijab before
leaving house.
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Restrict free mixing with non-mahram men.
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Avoiding excess jealousy.
Examples of this are:
1- Analyzing every word and sentence she says and overloading
her speech by meanings that she did not mean
2- Preventing her from going out of the house when the
reasons are just.
3- Preventing her from answering the phone.
Patience and
Mildness
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Problems are expected in every marriage so this
is normal. What is wrong is excessive responses and magnifying problems until a
marital breakdown.
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Anger should be shown when she exceeds the
boundaries of Allah SWT, by delaying prayers, backbiting, watching prohibited
scenes on TV, etc..
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Forgive the mistakes she does to you.
Correcting her
Mistakes
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First, implicit and explicit advice several
times.
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Then by turning your back to her in bed
(displaying your feelings). Note that this does not include leaving the bedroom
to another room, leaving the house to another place, or not talking with her.
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The last solution is lightly hitting (when
allowable) her. In this case, the husband should consider the following:
o He
should know that Sunnah is to avoid beating as the Prophet PBUH never beat a
woman or a servant.
o He
should do it only in extreme cases of disobedience, e.g. refusing intercourse
without cause frequently, constantly not praying on time, leaving the house for
long periods of time without permission nor refusing to tell him where she had
been, etc..
o It
should not be done except after having turned from her bed and discussing the
matter with her as mentioned in Qur'an .
o He
should not hit her hard injuring her, or hit her on her face or on sensitive
parts of her body.
o He
should avoid shaming her such as by hitting her with a shoe, etc.
Pardoning and
Appropriate Censure
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Accounting her only for larger mistakes.
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Forgive mistakes done to him but account her
for mistakes done in Allah's rights, e.g. delaying prayers, etc..
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Remember all the good she does whenever she
makes a mistake.
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Remember that all humans err so try to find
excuses for her such as maybe she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or
that her commitment to Islam is growing.
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Avoid attacking her for the bad cooking of the
food as the Prophet PBUH never blamed any of his wives for this. If he likes
the food, he eats and if he doesn't then he does not eat and does not comment.
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Before declaring her to be in error, try other
indirect approaches that are more subtle than direct accusations
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Escape from using insults and words that may
hurt her feelings.
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When it becomes necessary to discuss a problem
wait until you have privacy from others.
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Waiting until the anger has subsided a bit can
help to keep a control on your words.
The following is a summary of the book "How to make your wife
happy"
To make a woman
happy....?
Give ..
Attention
Show ..
Affection
Communicate ..
Appreciation
A man only
needs to be:
1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
WITHOUT
FORGETTING TO:
44. give her
compliments regularly
45. love shopping
46. be honest
47. be very rich
48. not stress her out
49. not look at other girls
AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
50. give her
lots of attention, but expect little yourself
51. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
52. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes
IT IS VERY
IMPORTANT:
53. Never to forget:
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes
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. HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY
1. Leave him alone!
2.
Show up naked
3.
Give
him food
4.
Give
him the remote control
HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY :
1. Good sex
2. Make nice food
3. Leave him in peace
How To Make Women Happy...
The Point System
(advice according to women)
In the world of romance, one single rule applies: Make the woman happy. Do
something she likes and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points
are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects.
Sorry, that's the way the game is played.
Simple Duties:
You make the bed (+1)
You make the bed, but forget to add the decorative pillows (0)
You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
You leave the toilet seat up (-5)
You replace the toilet paper roll when it is empty (0)
When the toilet paper roll is barren, you resort to Kleenex (-1)
When the Kleenex runs out you use the next bathroom (-2)
You go out to buy her extra-light panty liners with wings (+5)
In the snow (+8)
But return with beer (-5)
You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
You check out a suspicious noise and it is nothing (0)
You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
You pummel it with a six iron (+10)
It's her pet (-10)
Social Engagements At a Party:
You stay by her side the entire party (0)
You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college drinking
buddy (-2)
Named Tiffany (-4)
Tiffany is a dancer (-6)
Tiffany has implants (-8)
Her Birthday:
You take her out to dinner (0)
You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
Okay, it is a sports bar (-2)
And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted in all
of the colors of your favorite sports team (-10)
A Night Out With the Boys:
Go with a pal (-5)
The pal is happily married (-4)
Or frighteningly single (-7)
And he drives a Mustang (-10)
With a personalized license plate that reads GR8 N BED (-15)
A Night Out:
You take her to a movie (+2)
You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
You take her to a movie you like (-2)
It's called DeathCop 9 (-3)
Which features cyborgs that eat humans (-9)
You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)
Your Physique:
You develop a noticeable potbelly (-15)
You develop a noticeable potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)
You develop a noticeable potbelly and resort to loose jeans and baggy Hawaiian
shirts (-30)
You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-800)
Communication: When she wants to talk about a problem:
You listen, displaying what looks like a concerned expression (0)
You listen, for over 30 minutes (+5)
You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+100)
She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-20)
The Big Question: She asks, "Do I look fat?"
You hesitate in responding (-10)
You reply, "Where?" (-35)
Any other response (-20)
A woman is Many Selves? Is that it?!
So is a man:
1 child
2 superman
3 little boy lost
4 power tripper
5 gadabout
6 curious yellow
7 toy fanatic
8 gamer
9 joy stick addict
10 daydreamer
